It’s a matter of trust

trust11Recently On my newsletter, Monday Motivation, I posted some thoughts about trust.

I was amazed by the number of responses I received. It seemed that there were a lot of writers out there still grappling with trust. I heard from writers at the beginning of their journeys…and some who have been publishing for a very long time. It seemed that no matter what we were working on…where we were…what kind of feedback we were receiving…trust was still an issue.

 

Here is that post.

It begins with a question:

“If you could give new writers one piece of advice, what would it be?”

My answer could not be contained. (No surprise!!!) I had a lot to say, but after a while, I could see a theme, and this was TRUST.

Golda Meir said: Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.

 

Writers, this should be our motto!

 

Trust is such a huge part of the writing process.

In the beginning, I have to trust myself to write badly, to know that even though the words I’m putting down aren’t the ones I’ll end up with, that they will lead to something.

In the middle, I must trust my vision, my voice, my friends–especially when they tell me that something is working.

I have to trust my instinct to understand my characters and their motivations. And to be brave. To write down the true story…not the one that I think will end up well.

And then I must trust my editor. I must trust that the choices we have made are the best for the story. And that I agree with them! And that even if reviews aren’t great, that it’s okay.

These days, I know a lot of writers who are tough on themselves. We get down when writing isn’y easy/when the words don’t come/when roadblocks appear in our stories or in the submission process. We think it is OUR fault. That we’re not doing enough. Or not good enough. Or that the world is simply not fair. And then we get upset when we don’t measure up to our peers in other ways–when we compare ourselves to other parents or writers or professionals.

You know what I say?

Be nice to yourself. For me, I cannot be creative unless I feel safe.

Unless I TRUST.

Trust that you are doing the right thing, that your story will find a home. Trust that your words are important. Trust that your day will come.

As J M Barrie said, “All the world is made of faith, and trust, and pixie dust.” 

This week, look in the mirror. Pat yourself on the back. Take stock in how far you have come. Most of all, promise yourself that you will trust in your process and in yourself.

Have a great writing week!

xos

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8 thoughts on “It’s a matter of trust”

  1. Kellye Crocker says:

    Beautiful, Sarah, and absolutely true. Thank you for the reminder! Xoxo

    1. Sarah Aronson says:

      Thanks, Kellye!!!!!! xoxoxo

  2. elly swartz says:

    Fantastic post filled with wonderful advice! Trust me, I’m right : )

    1. Sarah Aronson says:

      Thanks, Elly!!!!! xoxox

  3. Linda W says:

    I needed this!!!

    1. Sarah Aronson says:

      We all do sometimes!!!! xoxoxo

  4. Tanya Lee Stone says:

    Sing it, sister!! I just read this to my college students on the last day of our writing class! Thanks for sharing these words of wisdom.

    1. Sarah Aronson says:

      Thanks!!!!!

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